Two twin boys one helpless stepdad

by John
(Dorchester)

Hello all

I am a stepdad to two wonderful 8 year old twin boys Cameron and Connor. I have always been interested in learning and development, and when I met The boys I found myself in a bit of a dilemma, I am desperate to allow their different identities to blossom but as they spend so much time together, all they seem to want to do is what the other is doing, say for example I manage to get one interested in drawing something detailed, which I am very happy about as it is a good task for helping grow their concentration levels, it isn’t long before they are distracted by something their brother is doing, this is something that siblings of different ages don’t always suffer from, they are interested in different things that suit their age.

I have tried to encourage them to spend time doing the same thing but it isn’t fair to pressure them to do something that they don’t have any interest in, no body learns much if they are not interested.

They have already had reports from school saying that they are easily distracted in class, and I am desperately worried that this will hamper their success in middle school.

In a nutshell I don’t want Cameron and Connor to have a short attention span when they join the middle school, where they will be expected to study one subject for long periods, from personal experience you have to pursue something to gain full insight. I am afraid that they wont be able to enjoy the benefits of becoming a master of something.

Does anyone else relate to this, or am I worrying about nothing?


Kindest Regards

John