Question about parenting 10 month old twin boys

Question about parenting 10 month old twin boys

by Venecia Sarver
(Dublin, Virginia, United States)

I had two twins boys they are 10 months old now. They are already developing a problem with sharing. My youngest is going thru a stage of being clingy to me. I feel that I could possibly be neglecting the other son, but I do try to have one on one time with each of them everyday. What should I do?????

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Oct 09, 2010
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Clingy
by: Anonymous

Yes, both of mine tend to be clingy even at two. I feel this is mostly because I was gone (to Afghanistan) for a year. I have started giving them... well for lack of a better term 'ignoring time' or 'uninteresting time'. I sit and read or surf the internet for an hour. I don't completely ignore them, but I make it clear that my attention is divided. In short, I try to be as uninteresting as possible. Eventually, they (usually) decide that they can go find something more fun to do than watch me watch something else.
Also a good practice is just to sit on the floor so they are the same height as me and let them choose the game. Sometimes Stella wants to play and Bridgit is not interested and sometimes it's the other way around.
Bridgit tends to cling to mommy more and Stella to daddy. Both prefer to go to mommy for an owie. It is very hard to give them equal attention, and I would say it is nothing short of actual work. Sometimes, I have to literally look and talk to just one even if the other tries to steal my attention. It sucks, but it has finally started to pay off.
As for fighting over toys, I used to deal with it and play referee, but recently I have tried letting them resolve the problem themselves. I was shocked, it seems to be actually working! Sometimes it is a game, sometimes it is a tantrum.

Aug 25, 2010
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10 Month Old Twins Sharing
by: Anonymous

I have 10 month old girls. In their 8th and 9th month, they would take each other's toys away and start crying. But as of their 10th month, they have made it a game. One will take the other's toy away from her, and they'll both start laughing. I love this stage. I'm sure they're going to have a hard time sharing from time to time, but I guess we'll deal with that when we get there. In the meantime, I say let them figure it out. Referee and intervene only when you absolutely have to. BTW, I love having twins! Lots of work and lots of Fun.

May 04, 2010
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TWin girls at 10 mos.
by: RC

I know girls are different than boys, but right at 10 mos, my girls started popping each other in the face to get toys. Then a month later-it just stopped and hasn't resurfaced! Now, at 13 mos they are giggling at each other and interacting like best buds in the world, its hilarious to watch! Hopefully this is just them exploring! Good luck!

PS. Lots of people said my twins would start testing me and getting little attitudes at 9, 10, 11, 12 mos---they still don't have "attitudes"----yet!

Feb 21, 2010
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Twin Boys
by: Angel

Seriously, they will change with each new development. I also want to share that I have felt nothing but guilt for spending too much time with one and not the other ( I too have a clingy one and an independent one) and then spending time with their older brother and now younger sister. You do the best you can and know that they will cherish what time you do spend with them. Just make sure you find the time to do it, a few times a week at minimum. I have also done separate nap times and took the time spend with each of them. They love the one on one attention.

My twins boys are just over 2 yrs now.

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